Last year was a rough year for young women at the hands of those who claim to love them.
June: a 16 year-old girl died from her injuries after being shot in the head by an unidentified male assailant.
May: Yeardley Love, a young college student, was killed by her ex-boyfriend weeks before her college graduation.
September: I watched a Dateline-type show where an ex-boyfriend literally shot the face off of a 17 year-old – she survived.
March: Marked the anniversary of the murder of a childhood acquaintance and her two sons, who were stabbed to death by her boyfriend.
Unfortunately, I could easily come up with the full calendar. The killer of the 16 year-old had not been identified and they have no motive. As I told my teenage daughter this morning, I will bet that it is a current or old boyfriend or someone who wanted to be.
Violence against young women at the hands of a boyfriend, ex, husband, admirer happens frequently. Too many women, including teens, are suffering in silence. Some sadly believing that violence is a display of love.
There are social programs that are starting to recognize this problem but they are slow. The best intervention is US. Please talk to your daughters, nieces, sisters, granddaughters, friends and selves. Ensure that they/we know our worth. Talk about and show them healthy relationships. Tell them they’re beautiful, even through the teenage-girl hormones/moodiness/attitude.
Nobody should love you ’til you’re black&blue.