Monthly Archives: November 2013

The Long Goodbye

As a member of the sandwich generation (those who may be or become a caregiver to children and parents), we have responsibilities that I never could have imagined. I have had five close friends lose their parents within the last three years and it is hard wrap my head around. One of those parents suffered from Alzheimer’s and I saw the toll it took on the family. It is important for us to pay attention to our aging parents and potential signs of this disease known as “the long goodbye.” The Alzheimer’s Association has prepared a checklist of top ten warning signs.

Know the 10 Signs

  1. Memory loss that disrupts daily life.
  2. Challenges in planning or solving problems.
  3. Difficulty completing familiar tasks at home, at work or at leisure.
  4. Confusion with time or place.
  5. Trouble understanding visual images and spatial relationships.
  6. New problems with words in speaking or writing.
  7. Misplacing things and losing the ability to retrace steps.
  8. Decreased or poor judgment.
  9. Withdrawal from work or social activities.
  10. Changes in mood and personality.

So this holiday season, especially those who do not see their parents/grandparents on a regular basis. Pay attention to subtle changes. Don’t get paranoid, but tune in if you’re not as much as you should be.

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Posted by on November 19, 2013 in Family, Health, Reflection



The Best Man Holiday


Okay. I still don’t like the title, it’s lazy and uninspired. But I love everything else. While not an Oscar contender, Best Man is a must-see. Better than the first.

I saw it yesterday at 9:30 am, in a crowded theater. Don’t worry, I won’t spoil it…

I loved The Best Man in the late 90s because these were my peers. A few years out of college myself, this could have been my crew. It made me nostalgic for one of the best times in my life and for the love and kinship of my TU fam. It explored complicated relationships, career, love and sex. Fast forward 15 years.

Now we’re grown-ups with children, spouses, careers and life challenges. These universal themes draw you in from the start. The personalities remain consistent and true to the original. It’s smart, dramatic, sexy and REAL. I think that’s what I appreciate most; the characters and the dialogue are real. Our favorite college buddies have layers, they have grown but still have room to do so. I’m not the only 40 year-old (okay, 41) who sometimes thinks, “I thought I’d have this figured out by now!” Am I?

I didn’t mind the wait. I heard co-star Nia Long in an interview yesterday and she said, yeah we could’ve done it five years out, but our characters would bot have grown yet- it wouldn’t be as rich a story. True dat.

There are surprises combined with hilarious fun. And Morris Chestnut is delicious as ever!!! That man is like fine wine.

Look, I could talk about the lesser value that Hollywood puts on these actors and “those kind of movies” but we already know it and it’s belittling. Reviews are never my motivation to see any movie, so why start now. Let the numbers speak for themselves, and they’re talking! To the tune of $33 million and counting…

And, yes I will see it again.

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Posted by on November 16, 2013 in Career, Family, Fun, Movies, Reflection, Relationships, Youth



The Turkeys Are Done


Tattoo artist, Vinnie Myers, of Finksburg, MD has inked more than 4,000 women in a unique way; he’s given them nipples. That’s right. Breast cancer survivors who have undergone reconstructive surgery have the ta tas, but no nipples or areolas…enter Myers.

From the midwest to international, women seek him out to “get a Vinnie” and replace what they’ve lost. Women say they become whole again.

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Posted by on November 15, 2013 in Arts, Family, Girls, Health, women


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Meet Lt. FAWMA


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Posted by on November 15, 2013 in Girls, History, Politics, women


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A Swapportunity Gone Awry

I have a teenage daughter…

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Posted by on November 12, 2013 in Family, Fun, Girls, Health, Motherhood, Youth


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It’s Not About War


No matter your politics, you owe them thanks. Salute a soldier today, tomorrow, always for their service.

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Posted by on November 11, 2013 in Family, Health, Reflection


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No Martial Law, Please

A resident looks at houses damaged by typhoon Haiyan, in Tacloban city, Leyte province central Philippines on Sunday, Nov. 10, 2013. Haiyan, one of the most powerful typhoons ever recorded slammed into central Philippine provinces Friday leaving a wide swath of destruction and scores of people dead. (AP Photo/Aaron Favila)

President Aquino said that he may declare martial law because of the heavy looting. Please no. People are just hungry, afraid and overwhelmed.

Please pray or send positive thoughts and money to help the people of the Philippines.

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Posted by on November 10, 2013 in History, violence


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Won’t Read THAT In the News

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Today my daughter and I attended DC CAP’s annual scholarship seminar and luncheon to learn more about the financial aid process and tuition assistance opportunities for DC students. The highlight of the program was the announcement of winners of DC CAPs contest, Why I Want to Go to College. High school seniors could answer the question using one of the following media: rap, song, visual art or essay.

Honorable Mentions were named first and the winners appeared onstage. The top three winners presented their submissions. Third place wrote a letter to his dad that answered the essay question and has used it for some college applications; there was not a dry eye in the room, especially my own. Second place was a painting of Trayvon Martin (pictured above). The young man explained that many times he does not share what he’s feeling, but his art allows him to express it. First place went to a school mate and friend of my daughter’s who was shot last Spring by an unknown assailant as he walked his cousin to the bus stop. He wrote about getting a second chance at life and his desire to have a safe place for his future children to grow and play; college is his ticket to better.

It struck me that the three winners were African American males. YES!!!! You won’t see that on this evening’s news…

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Posted by on November 10, 2013 in Arts, Education, Family, Reflection, writing, Youth


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Real Talk: Black Bruins


Just in time for college app season!!!

A close friend and educator shared this HuffPo article about the lack of diversity at UCLA and this student’s mission to talk about it.

UCLA is not alone. I don’t have the stats on hand but Calif. may be struggling more due to the changes in the admissions guidelines. However, I still take issue with the contention that without considering race, African American students can not compete. I will allow that many under-represented students come from less rigorous academic backgrounds and that’s what Affirmative Action was supposed to contribute to the college admissions process. That being said, it is no longer applicable…so what now?…

To Sy: Again the youth force change through innovation and creativity, but I wonder about the severity of the ramifications. And there will be ramifications… But there always have been. So continue to fight.


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The Eternal Feminist


At times, she dramatically rears her head. Sitting in traffic this morning, this sign jumped out at me. YES!!!

And I need a landscaper…

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Posted by on November 8, 2013 in Career, Entreprenuership, Family, Girls, women



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